Q: Dear Mimmy,
I agree, it’s bad. But they OWNED up. Most people won’t. They’ll cover it up and act like nothing happened. Or even worse, continue behind your back. People are devious like that. After all, you weren’t there, if they had chosen to withhold the information, you’d be in the dark still. While I’m not saying you should applaud and congratulate them, you should be glad , at least, that they are honest people who love you…..truly.
I can also imagine the thoughts that are going through your head. Wondering……if they were attracted to each other all the while, if they had done it more than once, if that is how she gets after getting high, if there are other situations that you arent aware of, if she enjoyed it….more, if she confessed only because your cousin might spill the beans, if they would continue, if you could still be with her, after your cousin has had carnal knowledge of her? I know right? I feel your pain.
If you really love her, find out the details, and judge without bias. If you think it’s something that could happen to any other person, including you, please do forgive her….and most importantly, forget. I know it isn’t easy and might seem insurmountable, but trust me, a few years from now, you’d find it funny that this was ever a big problem for you. I’m sorry. Eagerly await your response….